DISCLAIMER: In no way am I making this blog post because I think I am a professional or I know all the right and wrong things about a relationship. I know I am not and that I do not know all the answers. I just happen to know people pretty well and everything I am going to say is from personal experience or from helping friends through things.
#1. Communication
This is something that is key to have in any relationship. Without Communication there will never be a point where you can be on the same page. You both need to be able to understand how each other feels and how you feel in certain situations. You cant be afraid to open up to each other because in the end, if they can understand and be accepting of your feelings then they are the wrong person to be with.
#2 Trust
This is a very important part of a solid relationship. You need to be able to trust each other. If you don't you will just spend all your time worrying about what the other is doing and who are they with and what could be happening. All you will be able to thing is What If.. and you don't need or want that. A relationship is suppose to be fun and enjoyable and makes you happy not miserable and stressed because you have to worry every waking minute that your not with the other. Make a strong bond and trust them. If there is no trust then your constant stressing and thinking will drive the other crazy and it will be the end of your relationship.
#3 Put the other first
Remember your partner likes to feel special, that they are important to you. Putting them first in certain situations will mean the world to them. It doesn't mean drop all your friends to be fully dedicated every minute to the relationship but remember the other likes the idea that they mean a lot to you and that you think about them and there feelings. Like if they ask you to do something but your group of friends wanted to hang out but you already saw them twice that week and her/him once then tell your friends maybe another time and spend some time with your partner. It will make their day that they are important to you too and not forgotten.
#4 The Little Things
I am sure this can go both ways for guys and girls but I know personally most girls love and appreciate the little things the most. Bringing her flowers once and a while or a random text just telling her how much you care and love her will just make her day. You will see a huge smile on her face for awhile because she will keep reading it and thinking about it. Even a cute good morning/goodnight text will mean so much to her. Doing little things to show her how much you love and care about her will make her very very happy. And I know it can work the same way for guys.
#5 Be Spontaneous
Don't have repetitive dates. make them unique. Go on a picnic or a hike or a park or a walk. There is so many ideas and things you could do. Don;t just do dinner and a movie. Change things up every once and awhile and it will help things from getting boring.
#6 Listening
Beside being able to communicate, you need to be able to listen. If one of you have an issue and want to address it, the other needs to be able to listen and understand where you are coming from and what your saying. If they care about you and you being happy then they should listen to you and want to help to make things better. This will help decrease arguments and fights because if you can not only communicate but also listen and understand then it helps build a string foundation between the two of you.
#7 YOU time
Yes, you love to spend time with the each other but it is also important for you to have your own personally time with yourself or your friends. Spending every waking moment with each other will eventually drive you crazy and just bring out all the flaws and make you not want to be around the other. Things become irritating that way and that s the last thing you want. YOU time is very important. Spend some alone time or some time with your friends.
#8 Comfort/Safety
For a girl, all they want to know is that they are safe with you. That if needed you will be there for them, stick up for them, and protect them. For guys, they want to know they are safe too. That if they give you their all you will be their doing the same. That you will be there for them when they are at their lowest points and be there for them no matter what. You both need each other and it is important that you show that. That in time of need you have each other to count on.
#9 Close/Long distance
In a relationship where you live close or with the person you have a better chance at a long lasting relationship. You see the person all the time and you can touch them and make them feel safe. But you need to be careful that you do not stop having a life and forget about your friends. Just remember the important things about a relationship and your life and you should be good. If t doesn't work out then the person you were with just was not the one.
Long Distance is harder and more work but worth it if the person is the one. In this type of relationship Trust and Communication is very important. Because if you don't have these two things then the relationship will not last long. It is also important to make time to actually call the person and talk on the phone or video chat/facetime them. You need to make a little more effort to make it clear to them that they matter and you care about them.
#10 Be true to yourself
Never let the other person change you. Don't let them decide the person you should be. You are a perfect you. If they can't love you for who you are then you should not be with them. As a couple, you should bring the best u in each other, not spend your time making each other perfect for each other. If they are the right person, they will already think your perfect and love your flaws instead of trying to change them.
xo JACKIE
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